Loneliness in a big city

What is real big city life? What advantages and consequences does it have? Why is loneliness a fair price for it? Why should there be a cost to living in a big city? And who is to decide whether this price is fair or not? Let’s try to answer these questions.

What are the thoughts that come to your mind when you hear the phrase “big city life”? As for me, they are cars, clubs, shopping, education, money, crowds, lack of time and so on. These are the things that make our life. So living in a big city sometimes means that you aren’t noticed, you’re forgotten and it all happens because of the fast pace of life, but not because people don’t like you or don’t want to socialize with you. That’s how, I guess, the feeling of loneliness can appear or cross your mind. That’s why, I think, that before giving responses to all the questions I’ve put at the beginning, we should find out what loneliness is.

Sometimes people mix up the two notions of being lonely and being alone. Being alone is not a feeling; it is a state. It means that you are alone at the moment, or everybody turned away from you. But loneliness is a feeling and for me, it is a strange feeling, which usually appears when nobody can socialize with me, because of their business. You can stand on the street for several hours and nobody will pay attention to you. It means that you become invisible to other people. I can’t say exactly what loneliness is, because for every person it is different. For one person it’s the biggest fear in life, for another it’s just a simple feeling which he pays no attention. But as for me, loneliness is when nobody can help or support you. As I said before, loneliness is a feeling. It can appear in any moment of your life for different reasons.

During our lives, we always set some aims and try to reach them, forgetting all main values. But once we stop and look back we see that there is nothing left. If you live in a big city you have to obey its rules, even if they are cruel. If you want to achieve something in life, you must study and work a lot. And in this period of life, life in a big city absorbs you and you forget about everything else.

But we still haven’t answered the question: if loneliness is a fair price for a big city life. Once it was said that “We must pay for everything”. A big city gives us lots of opportunities and we use them as much as possible, forgetting about everything and becoming lonely, face to face with the city. And why is this price fair?

I pointed out four things for myself, which we pay for. These are life, health, love and loneliness. But if to take the least evil of all, I would choose loneliness, because to be lonely is better than to sacrifice your life. That’s why I think loneliness is a fair price to pay. It’s only my opinion, but what choice you make remains a question.